Stick to Your Own Bedrooms


The Fetish Fair Fleamarket was held this weekend at the Crowne Plaza in Warwick, hosted by the New England Leather Alliance. Billed as the largest and lowest costing event for the BDSM community in New England, the two day event brought thousands of people into town, as well as vendors, workshops, guest speakers and presentations.  The ballroom was converted into a fully equipped dungeon.

This being my weekend to work I was unable to attend the party (not the only reason) but if any of my readers were there I hope you stayed safe and had fun.

If any of my readers were among those protesting, trying to drive the event out of town, I’d like to know why?  Held twice a year at rotating sites, the Fetish Fair Fleamarket is thought to bring a million dollars in revenue to local businesses in the towns where it is held. The entire hotel is rented and nobody without a ticket bought in advance is admitted.  Nudity is not allowed in the lobby or any other areas where a perv with a telescopic lens ( teenage boys ) might be able to observe from off premises.  Private security as well as the local police are hired and rules of conduct strictly enforced. I understand if this isn’t something that you would like to participate in, but why care if others do?

One place that the event won’t ever be held is  Attleborro, a town where a similar party was once raided by police for being in violation of “chastity, morality, decency, and good order.”  Who deemed themselves  worthy of making this determination is unclear, but one woman was subsequently arrested for “assault and battery by means of a dangerous weapon.” Her crime was spanking another woman across the buttocks with a wooden spatula.


Mind Your Own
memoires dun Flagellant de Marque


Also held this weekend was the 2007 NBA All Star Game. Originally scheduled to be played in Charlotte, the game and it’s surrounding festivities were moved to New Orleans as a response to North Carolina’s ban on local ordinances that sought to extend protections for members of the LGBT community.  It was a big loss for Charlotte. The 2004 game in New Orleans generated 106.1 million dollars in economic impact and 60.4 million in direct spending.

It was an unprecedented statement for a major sports league, but also a great example of what to do if you object to what is happening somewhere.  Don’t go.

Even though the Supreme Court ruled in 2013 that it is a violation of the 14th amendment to bar consensual sex of any kind between adults, a dozen states still have anti-sodomy laws on the books.  Oral sex is illegal in 18 states, although in Kansas and Kentucky it is OK if you are straight.  Many of you may not be quite the law abiding citizen you once believed yourself to be.

Isn’t it time that we as a society started minding our own damn business?  I’m not particularly interested in S & M, but Fifty Shades Darker has earned 92.8 million dollars in the last eleven days, so some of you are intrigued.  I’ve never engaged in homosexual activity, but I’ve also never been propositioned by Tom Hardy.


Mind Your Own Business
youre welcome ladies


Here’s a list of the people that should have a say in what goes on in my bedroom : my wife.  That’s it, short list, and I’ll afford you the same courtesy.  Is it too much to ask for everyone else to expect the same?




30 thoughts on “Stick to Your Own Bedrooms”

  1. I’m just wondering where I can submit a tip for someone to go charge my mother. The wooden spoon has met my backside more times than I can count. 😉

    Yeah, I don’t understand why people get all up in arms about things like this. If you don’t like it, don’t go. Sounds like the most legit “fleamarket” I’ve ever heard of. Just saying.

    I may be breaking laws. I should check into that.

    Tom Hardy….drool.


    (I better see this post on #ShowMeYours tomorrow or I’ll cry!)

    1. there seems to be a lot out there that don’t like it when people act differently than they think they should

  2. So true. I think they are outraged because they are scared. Fear due to being uneducated on the facts. If you are outraged, investigate whatever it is you’re outraged about and if you still object at least keep it to yourself.

  3. I’m not from America, so it was interesting to read your post. Is it bad that I actually don’t know the UK law based on things like this? Although same-sex couples can wed, I just know that there are members of society who don’t agree with it and think it’s their right to object. It’s certainly a shame we can’t just let people get on with their own personal lives, because there are worse things in the world. #AnythingGoes

    1. I think that it IS their right to object – just not their right to try and force people to change based on those personal objections

  4. Exactly. As Mrs Patrick Campbell said: ‘Does it really matter what people do — so long as they don’t do it in the streets and frighten the horses!’ I really don’t care what people do in private as long as it is consensual and doesn’t harm anyone (who doesn’t want to be harmed in the case of S&M!). Being honest, if it involved Tom Hardy, I probably wouldn’t care what anyone did in public either! #AnythingGoes

  5. I totally agree!! If you don’t like something, you don’t have to attend/participate in any way, you can just move along! I fully support that how people choose to live their lives is totally up to them, as long as everyone involved consents! And as they say in the brilliant Sense8: love is love is love.

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