Plans For An Unexcused Absence


I’ve been fortunate to have been able to visit a lot of very fun places over the years. Weekends in Montreal, Myrtle Beach and Miami. Week long parties in Las Vegas, Nashville and Aruba.  My wife and I sneak off to Boston pretty much every chance that we get.

My favorite remains Walt Disney World in Florida, the one place that I never seem to tire of.  For over three decades I’ve never gone more than a few years in between visits.  I can’t tell you exactly when, just in case there are potential burglars that may be reading, but I’m becoming pretty excited about how close we’re getting to my next trip, the first time since we brought Kayla ten years ago that there will actually be children accompanying us.


back to disney
Sometime mid 80s


I’m excited, but not without worry.  After the initial surprise wears off there is a three hour plane ride that Alaina will have to sit through. There will be higher temperatures, long lines, and unfamiliar sleeping arrangements.

I took care of one of the biggest potential problems by finding accommodations with two bathrooms and was pleased by how she handled my secret practice day at Six Flags New England during spring break.  Long lines on their second open day of the year were tolerated and although the heat did take an eventual toll, the long pants and boots needed to gain that last bit of extra height for a few of the thrill rides won’t be necessary in Disney. She clears all the requirements there by a comfortable margin.


training for Disney
conquering roller coasters


My other concern was somewhat placated last month at parent teacher conferences.  As absurd as I think it is that there should be a problem with a kindergartner missing a few days of school for a family vacation, the attendance policies at her school are roughly equivalent to that of a low level correctional facility.  It’s the longest section of the student handbook, reminder pamphlets are sent home periodically and signs are posted all over school grounds.  When picking her up for a mid-morning dentist appointment earlier this year I was told to be sure I had her back in school within two hours so that “it wasn’t held against her.”  More than ten missed days over the course of the year and documentation is required to prove that these days were medically necessary.  What the consequences would be are left unspecified.


attendance is everything
the school motto


English father Jon Platt found out what the repercussions were from his Isle of Wright school, recently losing a legal battle he took all the way to the English Supreme Court after refusing to pay fines levied against him for taking his seven year old daughter to Disney.  The Court ruled that only the head teacher, not the parents, had the right to determine what was an appropriate absence. Nearly 150,000 other English families were fined last year for similar offences.

It’s completely absurd.

I understand the importance of early education and the role that attendance plays in a child’s success.  I agree that children should be encouraged to take learning seriously and develop a sense of pride in their academic efforts.  I’m sure that there are many irresponsible parents that are hindering their children’s education by enabling unnecessary truancy and that this should be monitored.

I’ll also be damned if I’m going to ask somebody else’s permission to take my kids to see Mickey Mouse.

Besides her academic progress and classroom behaviors, one of the things that my daughter’s teacher was required to comment on during our meeting was attendance, a perfect opportunity to inform her or our upcoming plans. She was refreshingly sensible in her response.

Whether or not the administrators are similarly rational remains to be seen, but as the trip approaches their response remains low on my list of concerns.

I’m more afraid that somebody is going to spoil the surprise.



35 thoughts on “Plans For An Unexcused Absence”

  1. This is my take! It is possible that some parents make it difficult for others by blatantly abusing the policy and I don’t mean for doctor appointments. Maybe because they slept in daily for the last so many months. Maybe for a different reason. What do I know? But surely it may occur on a sometimes daily basis.

    There’s nothing more MAGICAL than Disney! And family time is absolutely crucial to a child’s wellbeing! Take the girl to Disney and do it every year when it’s NOT school vacation. The lines are shorter!!!!! And tell Mickey I said Hi! 😛

  2. Back in the day – family vacations were used as opportunities to expand a child’s education. They had to do a book report and tell the class what it was all about. There are countries where the children actually attend school for half a day. Amazingly they score higher on the achievement tests than those children who have long days and strict rules. Hum… I think we are missing something. Coming from a former art teacher, oops that doesn’t count. I teach creativity.

    1. creativity is just as important as everything else learned in school. I would have no problem with her keeping some sort of journal while we are away, and actually thought to ask the teacher about that

  3. Hi,
    I teach 7th grade. I know of someone who was going to take their kids on an early vacation because “no one does anything the last day.” However, I teach till the end since I don’t have enough time our curriculum is that packed. I have to prepare students for 8th grade, so that time is valuable.
    However, kindergarten? That’s silly.

    1. I can understand that as you get into the higher grades, every day becomes that much more important and that there is no substitute for actually being in class. A few days once a year for a family vacation should be able to be made up though, as long as the child isn’t missing tons of time for other reasons

    1. It amazed me to see that over there you actually have to ask permission or face fine. It’s always nice to see another country more crazy about something than us.

  4. I think a well travelled child learns a lot more useful life skills than a child stuck in a classroom personally. Have a great time at Disney!
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂

  5. My girls are five years old. The first time we took them on holiday they were 18 months old, and they’ve been on a plane every year since then. The longest flight has been around two hours. I don’t think I’d go on a plane for any longer than that at this age. Anyway, we’re actually going to Disneyland Paris later this year. It’ll be during term time, but at this age, I don’t think it’ll have much of an impact missing school for a few days. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

    1. we’ve driven several hours at a time for vacations, but stopped periodically to stretch and recharge. Being stuck on a plane in a bit different for her once the initial excitement wears off. Have fun at Disney, I can’t wait to hear all about it

  6. We are off to Disneyland Paris in about a month very excited the girls have been on plane most years of their lives as for school well we are taking the girls out it won’t make a bit of difference to their education all ridiculous if you ask me Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  7. I see this from both sides. Daughter of a teacher who has had the same kids repeatedly taken out of school, and now I’m a mum of three who is shocked by the price of school holiday vacations. If everyone used their common sense when taking kids out of school it would work, unfortunately they don’t. Most likely I’ll be paying the fines in the future to be able to afford an occasional holiday abroad. Thank you for linking up with #KCACOLS and we hope you join us again next time!

    1. I think thats the truth about most things. Some people not using common sense making things more difficult for the whole.

  8. I’m in the UK with young children, I do worry that I will never be able to take my children on the many amazing experiences I had as a child. We were born in Canada so made the trip every other year, where we’d stay for a month to visit relatives as well as be tourists. Our teachers were always happy for us to have the time off, as long as we completed our homework and created journals from our trip to share with the class. It was so much easier back then. Hope you have a lovely time at Disney! #kcacols

  9. It’s such s shame some parents ruin it for others by taking children out of school for non eductational or health reasons and cause problems for others. Surely holidays and timenoff is time to expand the mind and learn a bit more? Surely that is something to be encouraged? #KCACOLS

    1. I think so. I understand the reasoning behind making attendance a priority, I just think they take it too far.

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